It’s Your Time to be Selfish

It’s Your Time to be Selfish

It’s easy to take care of others. We do it all the time.

Whether it’s a family member, a partner, our children, a friend, our pet, our clients, or our colleagues, our energy always seems to slip away - and unfortunately, many times, it’s not restored.

How can we continually give of ourselves, if we don’t take the time to recharge?

Growing up in our society, we’ve been told that taking care of yourself, addressing your needs, is selfish.

It’s not. It’s a requirement.

Self-care, and the methods that facilitate it, are unique to every person.  

It is a practice, just like art-making or athleticism, it has to be exercised and it has to be customized.

Self-care changes the way you see the world and yourself.

You deserve to treat yourself with the kindness and the care you exercise toward others.

This list is not exhaustive, by any means, so add to it and figure out one or two (or even three!) things that keep you feeling invincible, and do whatever it takes to do them on a regular basis.  

  • Celebrate the small steps
  • Take a bath (maybe a bubble bath)
  • Write about what’s on your mind
  • Make a reasonable to-do list
  • Make a healthy, filling meal
  • Take a night off
  • Take a day off
  • Write positive, affirming notes for yourself and leave them around your home
  • Take selfies
  • Meditate
  • Lay on your back on the ground
  • Be naked
  • Go outside for 10 minutes
  • Exercise
  • Stretch
  • Create a blend of essential oils labeled “I feel great!” and carry it around with you
  • Drink a cup of tea
  • Practice sustainability
  • Move – however you want
  • Breathe deeply
  • Get creative with food
  • Dance like nobody's looking
  • Go to the library
  • Visit an animal shelter
  • Bake yourself a treat
  • Call your best friend
  • Go for a photo walk
  • Stargaze
  • Take a power nap
  • Take a micro-break
  • Pause, listen to your body
  • Have a self-care date day/evening
  • Drink more water
  • Learn something new
  • Pet an animal
  • Find out the moon phase and go look at it
  • Unplug for an hour (or longer!)
  • Let yourself be lazy for an afternoon, without guilt
  • Prepare a sleeping ritual
  • Let your pleasure lead you
  • Say “no” to something to make room for a bigger “yes”
  • Give yourself a foot-soak
  • Take a walk in nature

The following suggestions outline a healthy lifestyle essential to optimizing physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health.

These are great self-care activities that directly improve function of your body, as a whole, by supporting the functions of your vital organs, especially, the organs of detoxification.

Through these suggestions, you will enhance metabolism and detoxification through the digestive system, liver, kidneys, skin and lungs to help the body eliminate wastes with minimal aggravation, which will guide your body into a state of dynamic adaptive homeostasis – the most lasting and effective way to achieve wellness.


Chew your food well – digestion begins in the mouth, and avoid drinking anything while eating.

Include at least one serving of either steamed or raw green vegetables a day – ideally 3 C (or more!) of various colored veggies per day.


Drink at least the equivalent of ⅓–½ your body weight in ounces of filtered water every day with electrolytes or trace minerals – green drinks (chlorella, spirulina) are also great!


End your shower with a cold/cool water spray (the temperature you can tolerate may change from day to day).  

Start with the extremities and finish with the low back – do this for 15-30 seconds to return blood flow to your internal organs.

Dry Skin Brushing

To help stimulate lymphatic circulation, thoroughly brush all of your skin, using short, very light, frequent strokes toward the heart for 45-60 seconds 1-3 days per week.  

It is best to do this on dry skin before bed or before showering.  

Use a vegetable fiber brush, natural sponge, or loofah sponge.

Castor Oil Packs

Use for 30-45 minutes 1-7 days per week.  

This treatment is essential to improve the function of your immune system and liver detoxification.  

You may include healing visualizations imagining you’re breathing in healing energy and directing it to the system or organ of concern, and then exhaling any waste or tension in that area – relaxing music may also help.  

Picture your body in its optimal state of health and realize that only you can achieve that level of well-being.

Deep Breathing

Inhale deeply through the nose, fill your abdomen (not your shoulders), then purse your lips and exhale.  

Try to exhale as long as you can before inhaling again.  

This technique may be done many times throughout the day – use this time get rid of negative self-talk.  

Try to do at least 20 breaths each day.

Be in Nature/Move

Unplug, and increase your time outside for sunshine and fresh air.  

I recommend moving your muscles daily - get outside and walk/hike, bike, do yoga, Tai Ji or Qi Gong.  

Once you have built a solid foundation, you’ll be able to progress to additional forms of exercise.


Try to go to bed at the same time every night (~9-11p) and get up at the same time every morning.  

Every hour of sleep before midnight is worth 2 hours.  A good night’s sleep will also improve your memory and help balance your hormones.  

I recommend between 7-9 hours of sleep every night.


Add pleasure, and subtract stress from your life – do something fun every day!  

Laughter is essential for stress management and a healthy heart.

Interested in Creating Healthy Change, That Lasts? Check out my free online course that walks you through the step-by-step process. 

To your current + future health!

Dr. Michelle and the VWS Team
(360) 828-1429